In whose eyes a vile person is contemned; but he honoureth them that fear the LORD. He that sweareth to his own hurt, and changeth not.
• The quality of possessing and steadfastly adhering to high moral principles or professional standards.
Boundaries are established through integrity.
If a person’s word is no good then the boundaries and standards they set up in their lives will always be compromised. Sometimes we fail to see the long term problems that come with not keeping our word even to ourselves. We tell ourselves we are not going to do such and such or that we are not going to go here or there and before the sun sets we have compromise or faltered on what we have spoken. We reason that it is okay because it was a personal promise and did not involve anyone else. However, little do we realize we are establishing patterns of mistrust and lying in our minds, which deceive our own hearts and minds as well as others around us.
Christian's should be people with integrity; we must learn through training and practical application, to keep our word regardless of who the word was spoken to. Of course, there will be times when you spoke something or promised to do something and for whatever reason, you had to postpone or apologize for not being able to do what you said. This however, is not an excuse for shabby, lackadaisical living.
The scripture above states that we should be willing to keep our word even if it hurts. Temporary inconveniences are a small thing compared to the consequences of a broken promise. When we lightly esteem our own words, we devalue the importance of our words; thereby, opening the door to deception.
Words are very important. We must remember the power of life and death is in our words. Let us all endeavor to come up a little higher in our integrity by keeping our word even if it is to our own hurt.
If you don’t plan on doing it.... then don’t say it.